Has your dating journey left you with just a bucket of smelly rotten fish or with no fish at all?!
Maybe you're doing your fishing where there’s no fish, i.e. frequenting the wrong places.
Maybe you need to change your fishing-rod, i.e. changing your perceptions about dating and love. Maybe you don’t know how to fish at all!
I receive a lot of emails asking me why they keep on being dumped when they are doing their outmost to be the perfect dates. Well, here are some tips on which fish you drastically need to throw back in the sea!
• a Drama King / Queen
From the very first date s/he will start dramatizing about his/her life, projecting to be the victim of the world. S/he will tell you too much about his/her ex-spouse, his past ex- girlfriends/boyfriends, his/her colleagues. How apathetic! Usually these types of people are the total opposite of what they project to be so be very aware.
• Mr./Ms Boast
From the very first date s/he will endlessly boast about his/her achievements giving you little or no time for you to speak. How superficial! Who wants to go out with a self-inflated balloon?!
• Mr./Ms Ideal
The person will project him/her self to be the perfect being to be with. No one is as loving and as committed as him/her. Something is really fishy here! Prepare yourself to a cheater!
• Mr./Ms Romantesco
Be careful of anyone who tries to sweep you off your feet too much, to soon with his/her wishful dreaming. S/he will promise you to take to wonderful places without taking interest of trying o get to know you first.
• Mr./Ms Hard To Get
S/he is always late, flirts with everyone to make you feel jealous and s/he replies hours after texting / calling or answering half the calls. Let him/her enjoy playing with his/her own ego!
• Mr./Ms Clingy
This is the total opposite of the latter, i.e. over eager and too demanding. Calling or texting too soon too much shows insecurity. Who wants to be with an insecure person?! We are drawn to people in society that are socially confident. Learn to become confident!
• Mr./Ms Pervy
Non-verbal communication is all sexual. A depraving sexual beast…Uurrrrghhhh!
• Mr./Ms Bossy
S/he is already telling you what to do from the very first date. Prepare yourself to live in a prison cell.
Always take full attention of body language and trust your guts. If you got a fluttery feeling in your stomach, make sure it is a sign of excitement and not a warning.
If a person has already treated you badly, throw this rotten fish back into his/her sea.
We tend to feel caught with wanting to give the person a second chance. We convince ourselves or let our selves be convinced that things will change. No they won’t!
What may seem ideal for you may be perceived as wrong or apathetic to your partner. Accept the fact that other people’s needs and likes may differ from yours. Moreover, if you keep being dumped, maybe something is really wrong with you and you need to make a reshuffle on your attitude and your perceptions.
Never become obsessed with someone you can never have. There are so many more fish in the sea, so many others who actually deserve your love. Never hurt yourself for someone who will never learn to appreciate you. In fact many people are single not because they are lonely but because they refuse to settle for someone less that what they expect or deserve. So choose your diving spot well!
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