IN LOVE WITH THE IMPOSSIBLE
Case study
“I’m in love with a married woman and no matter what anyone tells me, it’s only her that I want. She tells me that she’s in love with me, not with her husband, but she cannot leave him for she does not want to hurt her children as they are very close with their father. We have been together for four years. Lately her husband had some suspicion about us and she stopped seeing me. I feel that my world has fallen apart. I don’t want to go out and I don’t want other girls. I only want her. What can I do to get out of this depression”?
All case studies are shown with the consent of those who have written to me and the only reason I publish them is to bring awareness on various common social problems as I strongly believe that many people could evade unhealthy situations if only they were aware of the sour consequences.
When I have dug deeper on this particular situation, I realized that the main reason this guy fell blindly for this married person was because he knew that he could never have her for his own. As weird as this situation may seem, it is very common with people who fear love, responsibility and commitment.
Moreover, this guy realized that he was always very spoiled from his parents so he always got whatever he wanted. The fact that he knew he could never have this women for his very own, frustrated him. He couldn’t accept the fact that there was something he wanted desperate but couldn’t have. Thus all this resulted to be a battle with himself and not with love.
Now that he is aware of what is really causing his pain, he is working hard to overcome the true reason of his problem and of his despair.
Last week I have also written about infidelity. Infidelity can only cause pain so why go for it? It’s exactly like a drug so it can only bring destruction to every person involved in it. Married people who have affairs say always the same thing so do not fall in their trap. How can you ever be happy with a person who is committed to another person? Life is already difficult as it is. Do not make it more complicated. Invest in persons who can bring you peace, love, respect and serenity so throw the bad catches back to the sea. If you’re single, you deserve to have much better. You’re not a spare tyre!
And for those who are longing or are already having an affair, do realize that family is the most precious gift one could have. There are so many people out there who would give anything to have a family of their own, but for some reason or another, just can’t.
So do not take anything for granted. Every family have problems, maybe for some, they are more serious than for others. So instead of escaping your problems, work on them and see why your relationship is failing. To every problem, there is a solution. Pluck up the courage and do something about it!
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