FEELING GUILTY?!
Where does this menacing sense of guilt come from? Is it spiritual? Is it psychological or is it socially induced? Can we ever get rid of it?
Guilt is so powerful that it can lead to stress, and if severe, even to a depression. Many people get stuck in the feeling of guilt and thus find it very difficult to move on in life. If you allow guilt to paralyze you, then you are doomed to great sufferance, anger and pain. This happens because very often, it leads you to self-destructive patterns and even to psych-somatic disorders. Stop feeling guilty and extract something positive out of your experience, whatever it was.
From when we are kids, guilt is induced in us by every institution surrounding us; be it family, school, religion, politics etc. From a very early age, we are pressured to abide by every organization’s rules and pressured to reach perfection in anything that we do.
What happens than, is that whenever we do not manage to reach these high expectations, we are filled with a sense of guilt because we are told that we did not do our best. Whenever we do something wrong, whenever we contradict others, or whenever we do not conform to other’s beliefs, we are immediately scolded in a way that make us either shut down or rebel. So what happens when we are expected to live the perfect life by everyone around us? Very simple. Whenever we fail to meet the required targets, we automatically feel guilty, ashamed, incapable, failures, and if the guilt feeling is not taken care of, it could grow with us, affecting our self-esteem and our self-confidence throughout our lives. Wait. Here comes the rippling effect. People who are insecure or lack confidence are more prone to feel guilty and indecisive, and the harm continues especially if they become parents and transmit ‘the guilt trait’ onto their children.
Throughout our learning process, which should last until our last breath here on earth; it is very normal and even very healthy to make mistakes. So when do we need to feel guilty? Repeating the same mistakes as this would mean that we did not learn from our past experiences and when we disrespect, harm ourselves or others on purpose.
If you suffer continuously from a feeling of guilt, and you tend to put the blame on yourself, for whatever happens, than it is about time you start being kind and assertive with yourself. Stop this destructive behaviour at once. Re-evaluate your expectations. Identify where that guilty voice is coming from and fight it. Never forget that the evil force delights in seeing us living in negative emotions, especially in restlessness, shame, anxiety and fear.
If for example, you had a very strict childhood, or you were always made to feel bad about yourself, than you have probably built in a negative picture of yourself and consequently live in guilt for being just who you are. You feel guilty for you feel you have failed yourself and others
Delete from your dictionary ‘If only’. Believe in yourself and move on. Feel free to share your experiences. Take care. God Bless
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